The boneless tongue is so small and weak, it can crush and kill, and it declares the Greek. The tongue destroys greater horde, and the Turk asserts that does more than the sword. The Persian proverb wisely saith; a lengthily tongue- an early death! Or sometimes takes this form instead, “do not let your tongue cut off your head” the tongue can speak a word at the utmost speed. “Say’s the Chinese”, “outstrips the steed, the tongue’s great store house is the heart. From the Hebrew it is the maxim sprung. The sacred writer crowns the whole, “who keeps the tongue doth keep his soul”.
HOW TO CONTROL THE POWER OF THE TONGUE
1. We must be powerful regarding the use of our tongue
2. We must resolve to discipline ourselves regarding the use of our tongue
3. We must perpetually and lovingly speak the truth in love
4. We must refrain from being party to or a conduct for gossip.
5. We must refrain from insincere flattery
6. We must refrain from degrading humor
7. We must refrain from sarcasm
8. We must amortize to the scripture which teaches the proper use of the tongue.
THE ENEMY WITHIN
“Is it possible to kill a mosquito feeding from your blood while you are in deep sleep? Unless considering the probability of chances...?
There is never a way you can identify an enemy even if you are in serious fight against each other or group. There are some friends that fight to kill themselves, at which the time of death, the other goes mourning seriously and expressing deep grieve towards the loss. The enemies within are just you and I, and there are big reasons of expatiating the above sub-heading; which entails that a friend you are with today can turn out the worst enemy tomorrow. The turning point or complains of sudden change can include the followings:
- Jealousy, - Hatred, - Stupidity, - Envy, - Misunderstanding, - Mental illness, - Remoteness, - Defamation, blasphemy, procrastination EST.
A true Christian is not of this world, he/she is seen as an exemption to this evil world. (John. 17:14). And it is recorded that carnal humans are possessed with devilish spirits and they negatively influence another, even creating unnecessary problems, disturbances and enmity. And because our bodies are easily open to unnecessary possessions (Holy Spirit/Demonic Spirit) in this world, it is better for us to live by the commandments of almighty God, so as to prevail from any form demonic influences. And in other to overcome every spiritual battle and negative influences, a true Christian needs to always stand by the “Truth” and always wear the armor of God, which can be categorized as the total submission and obedience to the will and commandments of almighty God.
So the enemy within can better be described as you and I, because we can never predict the actions of another whenever he/she is possessed by negative or positive spirit. It therefore controls the attitudes, behavior, feelings, emotions, and actions of such person concerned. And it is also noted that the spirit cannot attack the physical, it rather possess the physical before attacking another physical body. And anyone blessed with the spiritual gift of life will fore-see the possessions and with the help of the guardian angel which is the Holy Spirit, such person will overcome every negativity thereto. It is also noted that spiritual attacks the spiritual, and that is why we need to wear the amour of God steadily so as to overcome any battle in the spiritual.
There is what is referred to as the PUBLIC ENEMY; in a situation where you find yourself becoming the public enemy, it is better for such person to immediately isolate or migrate from such environment. And the people that can be associated with such recognition are High Profile Individuals or Government officials. This kind of enemity can be caused by evil possessions or evil proclamations towards such person(s). And it takes the grace of almighty God for such person to have a say again in such environ, only by that such person can succeed in his endeavors. Even despite the good works of Jesus Christ when he came, he was still sold out and betrayed by one of his disciples (evil possessions). So to say that before someone can get such negative recognition; it must start with the enemies within. And at the course of experiencing such, the person tries to identify the problem, it is better to start solutions from within, and from there solution can circulate to several places of negative influences. Ex; someone fighting a good fight for the public later turns out the enemy of the public, and then there is a problem somewhere, which must be attended to first before proceedings. The problem can be from the household, colleagues in office, relationship EST. Someone close enough to predict the movements, foods, drinks, associations and whaterview.
THE ENEMY FROM THE MIND: there are some people that are best in seeking the down fall of another whichever way. While some are just there to mock another in there laxities to life. While some live a life of “I DONT CARE WHAT THEY SAY”...Some even went as far as predicting the minds of another thereby proclaiming to be a sight seeker. They claim to see before you act and such people when a person gives in to their prediction, they can easily set trap for the person to fall before their eyes. And these kinds of enemy are the worst to get ever, because they usually come in a silent formation just to study the person’s weakness before they attack. And that makes them very dangerous to understand and comprehend. These type of people kills faster than poison, and they work on their victims weakness just to enable them overcome or manipulate them.
There are so many different kinds of people in this world, and you can never assume that everyone will react to your strategies in the same way. Deceive or out maneuver some people and they will spend the rest of their lives seeking revenge. They are wolves in lamb’s clothing’s. Choose your victims and opponents carefully, then never offend or deceive the wrong person.
- OPPONENTS, SUCKERS AND VICTIMS: in your rise to life you will come across many breeds of opponents, suckers and victims. The highest form of the art of power is the ability to distinguish the wolves from the lambs, the foxes from the hares, and the hawks from the vultures. If you make this distinction well you will succeed without needing to coerce anyone too much. But if you deal blindly with whomever that crosses your path, you will have a life of constant regret that is if you even live long. Being able to recognize types of people and to act accordingly is critical. There are five most dangerous and difficult types of people identified by an artist-con and otherwise.
(1) THE ARROGANT AND PROUD MAN
(2) THE HOPELESSLY INSECURE MAN
(3) MR.SUSPICION
(4) THE SERPENT WITH LONG MEMORY
(5) THE PLAIN, UNASSUMING AND OFTEN UNINTELIGENT MAN
(1) THE ARROGANT AND PROUD MAN: although this kind of people may initially disguise it, this kind of person’s touchy pride makes him very dangerous. Any perceived slight will lead to a vengeance of overwhelming violence. You may say to yourself, “But i only said such – and – such at a party, where everyone was drunk...”it does not matter.” There is no sanity behind his overreaction, so do not waste time trying to figure him out. If at any point in your dealings with a person, and you sense an over sensitive and over active pride, please flee, whatever you are hoping for from him isn’t worth it.
(2) THE HOPELESSLY INSECURE MAN: this man is related to the proud and arrogant type, but is less violent and harder to spot. His ego is fragile; his sense is of self insecure, and if he feels himself deceived or attacked. He will attack you in bites that will take forever to get big enough for you to notice. If you find you have deceived or harmed such a person, disappear for a long time. Do not stay around or the person will nibble you to death.
(3) MR. SUSPICION: this is a kind of person who sees what he wants to see and usually the worst in other people, and imagines that everyone is after him. This kind of person is in fact the least dangerous. Genuinely unbalanced, he is constantly deceived. Play on his suspicious nature to get him to turn against other people. But if you do become the target of his suspicions. Be careful!
(4) THE SERPENT WITH A LONG MEMORY: if hurt or deceived, this man will show no anger on the surface; he will calculate and wait. Then when is in a position to turn the tables, he will exact revenge marked by a cold-blooded shrewdness. Recognize this kind of person by his calculations and curny in different areas of his life. He is usually cold and unaffectionate, be doubly careful of this snake, and if you have somehow injured such person, either crush him completely or get him out of your sight.
(5) THE PLAIN, UNASSUMING, AND OFTEN UNINTELLIGENT MAN: this man is lot harder to deceive than you imagine, falling for a muse often takes intelligent and imaginatory approaches. A sense of the possible rewards, the blunt man will not take the bait because he does not recognize it. The danger with this man is not that he will harm you or seek revenge, but merely that he will waste your time, energy, resources and even your sanity in trying to deceive him. Have a test ready for a mark, a joke, a story. If his reaction is utterly literal, this is the type you are dealing with.
DO NOT COMMIT TO ANYONE, BUT BE COURTED BY ALL: if you allow people to feel they possess you to any degree, you lose your life and will power over them. By not committing your affections, they will only try harder to win you over. Stay aloof and you gain the power that comes from their attention and frustrated desire. Play the virgin queen; give them hope but never satisfaction.
Also do not let people drag you into their petty fights and squabbles. Seem interested and supportive, but find a way to remain neutral. Let others do the fighting while you stand back, watch and wait. When the fighting parties are good and tired they will be ripe for the picking. You can make it a practice, in fact, to stir up quarrels between other people, and then offer to mediate, gaining pattern of living as the go-between.
Another way of eliminating enmity is applying the MIRROR EFFECTS, which is a perfect tool for deception: when you mirror your enemies, doing exactly as they do, or proclaim, they cannot figure out your strategy. The mirror effects mocks and humiliates them, making them over react. By holding up a mirror to their psyches, you seduce them with the illusion that you share their values; by holding up a mirror to their actions, you teach them a lesson. Few cannot resist the power of the mirror effect.
THE MIRROR EFFECT
There are four main mirror effects in the realm of life, they are as follows:
- THE NEUTRALIZING EFFECTS: do what your enemies do, following their actions as best as you can, and they cannot see what you are up to----they are blinded by your mirror. Their strategy for dealing with you depends on your reacting to them in a way characteristic of you; neutralize it by playing a game of mimicry with them. And a reverse version of the neutralizing effects is the SHADOW EFFECTS; you shadow your opponents every move without them seeing you. Use the shadow to gather information’s that will neutralize their strategy later on, when you will be able to thwart their every move. The shadow is effective because to follow the movements of someone is to gain valuable insight into their habits and routines. The shadow is the pre-eminent device for detectives and spies.
- THE NARCISSUS EFFECT: this is simply the ability to mimic another person not physically, but psychologically, and it is immensely powerful because it plays upon the un-satisfied self-love of the person. Normally, people bombard us with their experiences and their tastes. But they hardly ever make the effort to see things through our eyes. This is annoying, but it also creates great opportunity; if you can show you understand another person by reflecting their inmost feelings, they will be entranced and disarmed, all the more but it happens so rarely. No one can resist these feelings of being harmoniously reflected in the outside world, even though you might well be manufacturing it for their benefit and for deceptive purposes of your own. This effect works wonders in both social life and business; it gives us both the seducer’s and the courtier’s mirror.
- THE MORAL EFFECTS: you mirror what other people have done to you, and do so in a way that makes them realize you are doing to them exactly what they did to you. You make them feel that their behavior has been unpleasant, as opposed to hearing you complain and whine about it, which only gets their defenses up. And as they feel the result of their actions mirrored back at them, they realize in the profoundest sense how they hurt or punish others with their unsocial behavior. You objectify the qualities you want them to feel ashamed of and create a mirror in which they can gaze at their follies and learn a lesson about themselves. This technique is often used by educators, psychologists, and anyone who has to deal with unpleasant and unconscious behavior. This is a teacher’s mirror, whether or not there is actually anything wrong with the way people have treated you, however, it can often be to your advantage to reflect it back to them in a way that makes them feel guilty about it.
- THE HALLUCINATORY EFFECTS: this comes from creating a perfect copy of an object, a place, a person. This copy acts as a kind of dummy------- people take it for the real thing, because it has the physical appearance of the real thing. This is the pre-eminent techniques of Con-Artists, who strategically mimic the real world to deceive you. It also has applications in any arena that requires camouflage; this is the deceiver’s mirror.
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THE CON-ARTIST
Definition: this means the act of introducing or the proclamation of an in-genuine area of specialization. Or it is an act of showcasing a ticklish form of contract, jobs, and probably business which can never stand out to build or either educates ones standard of living, rather at the point of spotting any error it ends up introducing a very bad reputation on the persons involved.
A con-artist can be found anywhere, they are you and me, and they can even be your family member or relatives at which when they are spotted of any errors their reputation will turn out a disgrace upon them. This con-artist always pretends as if they are there to help or bring solutions to ones problem, but rather they disguise themselves as if they are true in any form of negotiations involved.
Working with a Con-Artist (Modus Operandi) 1
Since a Con-Artist proclaims he/she is perfect in his/her area of specialization, it is better or preferable to negotiate at “FULL” with anyone who proclaims to know more. And at such every security agencies must have a representative in any contract job channel to such person.
Dealing with a Con-Artist: in this case when you are about to go into contract with anyone you don’t really know or understand, and then the need to properly identify the person must be ascertained. Identifying a Con-Artist really means that the proposed person(s) has to go extra mile in properly identifying the person (Contractor/Con-Artist) before any monetary or paper work commitment would be made.
Please note a Con-artist is a confirmed scammer, and there pattern of working is always to introduce jargons in their business activities. On the other hand a con-artist can never live a genuine life, and this is because of the fear of the unknown. So they always fake up their identity so as to be able to manipulate with their victims funds, relationship and life style. A con-artist is a confirmed armed robber. And this is because at the loss of any business arrangements they can go extra mile to seeing that they eliminate or sometimes put their business associate into serious dilemma.
The need to properly identify a con-artist prior before assigning any contract job must be the priority of the business man. Secondly, steady monitoring and sanctioning on every contract job giving must be supervised by un-notified mole against any suspected con-artist at the time of executing the contract or permanent job. And this is because any lapses need to be scrutinized by the business man.
Also the need to pity or show any parenting hand towards a con-artist must be excluded. Also steady follow-up on any business arrangements or execution must be applied so as to avoid unnecessary jargons into such business.
RAT RACING
This is a paradoxical word used to express a kind of attitude people possesses towards another or group which is very deadly, tempting and confusing to comprehend. This word is used to qualify someone who doesn’t work according to his/her aim or area of specialization but always monitoring another person’s accomplishment before setting for the same targeted achievements. It involves unnecessary competing from a person to another who is less or not even interested on the concentrations made.
Ex: Man (A) sets a vision for himself so as to achieve some certain goal within a specified period of time, while another man (B) keeps monitoring the achievements of (A) before working towards actualizing the same goal. And from observations (B) has no vision and does not have any target orientation.
POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE EFFECTS OF RAT-RACE
Positive
- competitive atmosphere is introduced
- the zeal to achieving more is always constant
- confident posture at all times
- standard of living is always positive
- freedom of association and movements are never limited
Negative
- it increases crime rate
- jealousy, hatred, enviness, hatred and all manner of evil are introduced
- no goal or vision orientation
- It affects the health status if temptations overwhelm the person concerned.
- Frustration sets in if the standard of living is at high rate.
NB: Rat racing is experienced on our daily lives, and this is because you never know who is competing with you secretly or openly. And whenever you dictate or spots out someone who has such on you, it is better to be more confidential on your plans or probably isolate totally from such person if he/she is a friend or neighbor so as to avoid early death or unnecessary sickness which could lead to death.
RAT RACERS & CON-ARTIST 1
In the case of a rat-racer he/she is seen as a confused person, in the sense that he/she does not set proper plan for a better achievement, rather it is always at the verge of competition with another on a relative achievements aimed at surpassing the other. Also a rat-racer is never a specialized person, but rather a monitoring agent if I may say. And this monitoring is always just to spot out the achievements of another, so as to figure out another plan of counter-balancing the person. Lastly, a Rat-racer is not always interested in his/her achievements, but rather monitoring and focusing on the achievements that surpasses his/her competitors.
A Con-Artist is seen as a scammer, and there live is just to introduce delay or jargon's in the business activities they are engaged in.
REPUTATION: from dictionary: it means the opinion that some people have over someone based on past occurrences. And reputation is the corner stone of one’s identity. It really gives details of someone abilities. There are kinds of tactics used to ruin someone’s reputation, and I will only consider but two most famous of them all; and they are:
- DOUBT: this is a powerful weapon; once you let it out of the bag with insidious rumors, your opponents are in a horrible dilemma.
- GENTLER TACTICS: the fake hypnotism demonstration; he ridiculed his rivals reputation.
Do not accept the roles that society foists on you. Re-create yourself by forging a new identity, one that commands attention and never bores the audience. Be the master of your own image rather than letting others define it for you. Incorporate dramatic devices into your public gestures and actions-----------your life will be enhanced and your character will soon seem larger.
The ending is everything, plan all the way to it, taking into account all the possible consequences, obstacles, and twist of fortune that might reverse your hard work and give glory to GOD, by planning to the end you will not be overwhelmed by circumstances and you will know when to stop. Gently guide your fortune and help others determine the future by thinking far ahead.
What is offered for free is dangerous-----------it usually involves either a trick or a hidden obligations. What has worth is worth paying for. By paying your own way you stay clear of gratitude, guilt, and deceit. It is also often wise to pay the full price--------there are no cutting corners with excellence. Be lavish with your own money and keep it circulating, for generosity is a sign and magnet for life.
DEALING WITH OUR EGO IN LIFE
There was a talk show on this very heading, which really emphasis on the need to protect and guide our ego in relationship. And this is because it is the fore-most area where ladies or basically women look out for in other to deal treacherously to their partner or men in general. Ego: from dictionary meaning is the sense of your own value and importance. (2). the part of the mind that is responsible for your sense of who you are. And this sense of value is your reputation which speaks about you. And when a woman decides to tamper with it or her partner’s sense of value, it will drastically reduce the person’s reputation and every other relating motive the person has. Also when a man’s ego is tampered with, it leads or causes serious infidelity in their union; it can also lead to serious isolation between both parties.
There are several criteria in a man which gives him a good sense of value; and they are s follows:
- Wealth (area of specialization, cash at hand & cash in bank EST.)
- Self- Respect (attitude, behavioral aspects EST.)
- Relationship guides’ ( his do’s and don’ts )
Now when a woman decides to violate this above criteria, it only tries to ruin the man’s life thereby causing him to live a miserable life or reducing the man’s reputation in the public. And a high profile man’s ego is been violated, it causes him to lose virtually every of his likelihood or reduces the person’s reputation to nothing, even goes further to scatter the person’s wealth if not properly managed.
THE DECOY PATTERN IN VIOLATING A MAN’S EGO
In a relationship when your partner is presenting himself/herself in a decoy pattern to you, it really means that you need to apply the utmost caution to such person because you never know or cannot predict the motive of such partner. Decoy from dictionary meaning is a person used to trick somebody into relationship or doing what you want them to do, even going where you want them to go. “REMOTTING”
So that is to say when a partner is presenting herself in a decoy pattern, it really means such person wants to take total control of you and your relationship. Such person wants to be an edge in the relationship or make you a slave to relationship life. “Remoting in relationship”.
To be continue...
